( The text comes from the archives of 2014)
" The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly." - Budda
Travelling on the path of mindfulness is not easy and is not fully visible at once. After having great eye-opening at the beginning of my journey, I also have had moments of disbelief, anxiety and inside horror of living. It seems that for the past few days I forgot about everything I'd learned and I wasn't able to think logically. The dark moments have arrived. A few days ago I made a mistake that affected me both mentally and physically and I started to wonder how fragile I am. Then, though, I thought it may not be a bad situation. Through my mindful approach and with time I was not only able to see the things and how I reacted to them, but I was able to try again and introduce changes for the present and future moments.
We all have problems, troubles, meet unkind people, etc. We all have moments of forgetting ourselves and falling into some deep dark jar of feelings. The trick is, in my opinion, to be able to go out to the sunlight again. Somebody said " the mind falls asleep when demons are awakened", for me it represents this jar of fear, not thinking clearly and not seeing any silver lining.
The true value of mindfulness for me are the moments when we can shake off those feeling and stand up tall again.
I am not writing this piece to let the world know how courageous I am. I just want to tell those who may read that and who go through the same ups and downs that you are not alone. There are thousands of people like you or me and each time we win, it makes us true heroes of everyday life. That those moments don't make us weak people, but on the contrary, we are strong and stronger with every fall.
All the life I have lived in a conservative, Catholic society where the role of a woman has been well known and approved for ages, and where the example comes from the top. The society and different institutions see the role of women in a very simple way, good wives, mothers of as many children as possible, eager lovers, quiet and lacking own opinions creatures that just should look nice, smell nice and stay that way. To prove their opinions, some focus on the importance and glory of women as being the founders and bearers of the home fire, the others focus on issues connected with natural weaknesses of women that lead to their "natural" place and duties at home.
As long as I remember I have been a woman with own, very often risky opinions, a person who has been told and taught to fight for the rights of those in need, the weak, minorities and any others who just do not fit the standards of the society they live in. So I have been fighting in different ways, saying what I think about numerous issues, teaching people not to treat another human being differently, only because he or she has a different colour of skin, different religion, sexual orientation or anything else that differs him or her from the rest.
For many years I have also been interested in mindfulness, minimalism, slow and simple life and financial awareness, for some called financial freedom. Those who know me know I am opinionated, have strong values connected with democracy, liberalism.
For all the reasons mentioned above and probably for many more, I dedicate this blog section on my website. It is and will be the place where I won't only touch issues near and dear to my heart, but also, that is more important for the visitors of my website, I will write texts in English. It may be another source of some English language adventure for you, Guys.
So, let's do it! I Do hope you will enjoy the existing posts and those that will arrive in future. You may always leave comments at Happy English group on Facebook. or you can find me on Twitter @Brygida_Poland
We live in times of speed. The high speed of life, work, travelling, meetings, shopping and probably other countless things we do on an everyday basis. While living so fast, we complain about doing it pretty all the time, too. So, we take physical actions and, at the same time, mental reactions, but the latter changes really nothing. We complain about a fast pace of life, but we feel forced to live this way. Like there is some powerful force that makes us behave this way.
Here comes my question, is there really an outer force saying to work too much and too fast or is it our mind making tricks on us?
If only do we change our perspective, I believe, we weaken significantly this chorus of thoughts in our minds. With time, and I need to say with a rather great number of years, I have learned to understand and feel it, I have understood that a constant chase of money does not bring me much pleasure - I am unable to spend more, so why bother to work too much? Guess what? I have started to enjoy my work again, I know I can earn, but I do not have to.
I started investing in a stock exchange, after implementing just a little of a mindful approach to it, I am not too scared when shares are falling down. I believe that what goes down, must bounce up again. Of course, I do not know if it is a professional idea, but it works for me, also in a material way.
When I walk, say, to and from work or shopping, etc I try to look at the trees, leaves on streets, small bushes, I try to pay attention to this particular moment and things in and on my way. You know, I not only can actually notice those things, but also I experience the time does not speed so much. I remember the first time I felt it, it was one big spiritual and intellectual "wow" in my life.
All in all a little bit of mindfulness can bring great and positive changes in our lives. We need to stop complaining and blaming the world for the speed and intensity of life, but notice it is us who decide to live this way. We always have a choice and we always can say "no" to the outside "encouragements" to work more and live fast. Is it possible? Yes, it is. Is it hard to introduce in life? Yes, it is? Is it worthy? Yes, it is! So to all who want some changes, hope you find my blog post at least a bit helpful!
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